Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further? Is this describing your situation to a tee? Are you asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" at every turn? Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.
Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your relationship, which is what led you to this site in the first place. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be acting correctly, causing your ex to pull away naturally. It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.
Are you calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, stop! If you are asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", then you need to stop doing these things right now.
So What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Follow this strategy instead.
You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach. Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.
During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.
You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.
Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear mysterious and he will be reminded why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"
If you would like to learn more about what you can do to get your man back, you need to check out The Magic of Making Up today!
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Get Your Ex To Return Your Calls
Hi,
Are there any 'magic' words you can use
to get your ex to return your phone calls?
To me, it sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?...
I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions I get
from the over 35,000 subscribers just
like you that are trying to put their relationship
back together.
So I am going to answer..."How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or Instant Message?"
BUT...
***********
WARNING!
***********
In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay
out a complete strategy.
Click Here!
If you use this technique alone, without
an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.
****************
What NOT to Say!
****************
Before we get into the actual words, let's
go over what message almost NEVER
works.
and worse...
Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."
And the EMERGENCY-
"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this!!!"
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
************************************
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
***********************************
Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here's the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'
So...
Let's look at what you can say
that works just about EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person."
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call you need to do the
"Set Up"...which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to
be plausible.
But more importantly...
************
2nd WARNING!
************
Please have an underlying strategy
like I lay out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.
Click Here!
If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying is...
What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.
Make sense?
Have a PLAN!==>Click Here!
Are there any 'magic' words you can use
to get your ex to return your phone calls?
To me, it sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?...
I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions I get
from the over 35,000 subscribers just
like you that are trying to put their relationship
back together.
So I am going to answer..."How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or Instant Message?"
BUT...
***********
WARNING!
***********
In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay
out a complete strategy.
Click Here!
If you use this technique alone, without
an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.
****************
What NOT to Say!
****************
Before we get into the actual words, let's
go over what message almost NEVER
works.
and worse...
Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."
And the EMERGENCY-
"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this!!!"
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
************************************
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
***********************************
Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here's the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'
So...
Let's look at what you can say
that works just about EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person."
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call you need to do the
"Set Up"...which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to
be plausible.
But more importantly...
************
2nd WARNING!
************
Please have an underlying strategy
like I lay out in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.
Click Here!
If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying is...
What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.
Make sense?
Have a PLAN!==>Click Here!
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Dating. . .Time to Start Over
There is nothing harder than the end of a relationship. Nothing that is except resuming the dating life after a separation. Your friends will try to get you out on that first date too soon, and unless your family truly hated your spouse, will try to make you wait far too long. That first date is a killer, I know, but it must be done. There are just a few things to keep in mind before heading back out in the dating world.
First, make sure that you are moving at your own pace. No one expects you to walk out of a long term relationship without some emotional scars. Dating after a separation has to be about healing and that takes time. Let yourself mope and cry if that is what you need to do. Only you can decide when you are ready to move on.
Now, here is a tip that might make you think I have lost my mind, but bear with me, I do have a point. Do not turn down dates when you finally do get back out in the world. No, I do not advocate dinner and movies with any Joe Schmo that asks you to go, but going out to coffee is good practice. Yes, practice. Get out there and learn what you like and do not like, personality wise. Once you figure out what items are on the positive check list, you can go out and start looking for them!
Don't try to find a replacement for your ex. That relationship failed for a reason, you know. Going on a lot of dates will also open your eyes to the veritable buffet of available singles out there, and the more dates that you do go on, the more likely you will see that you do not have to settle for less than the very best. Maybe you thought that you preferred athletes until you dated that football player with the odor issue. Lesson learned, right?
The more dates that you go on, especially after separation, the more confidence you will gain. That in turn will make you a happier, more well adjusted person. Once you are happy with you, the chances increase that you will finally meet Mr. Right. Until that day, it's Mr. Right Now or home alone every Saturday night, it's your choice. But think about this: do you really want to sit there eating cheese doodles and watching Lifetime movies every weekend while your ex is out partying and living the high life? Do you really want to pick up the Sunday paper and see his face smiling back at you from his engagement announcement photo? Really? Of course you don’t!
The timetable is different for everybody; some people’s hearts heal faster than others. One thing is true for everybody though; dating after a separation is hard. There will be bad dates where you come home and fling yourself on your bed and sob, thinking that you will never love again. Then there will be the good dates where you come home, your lips still quivering from that perfect good night kiss and sigh, thinking that maybe, just maybe there are some good guys out there after all.
First, make sure that you are moving at your own pace. No one expects you to walk out of a long term relationship without some emotional scars. Dating after a separation has to be about healing and that takes time. Let yourself mope and cry if that is what you need to do. Only you can decide when you are ready to move on.
Now, here is a tip that might make you think I have lost my mind, but bear with me, I do have a point. Do not turn down dates when you finally do get back out in the world. No, I do not advocate dinner and movies with any Joe Schmo that asks you to go, but going out to coffee is good practice. Yes, practice. Get out there and learn what you like and do not like, personality wise. Once you figure out what items are on the positive check list, you can go out and start looking for them!
Don't try to find a replacement for your ex. That relationship failed for a reason, you know. Going on a lot of dates will also open your eyes to the veritable buffet of available singles out there, and the more dates that you do go on, the more likely you will see that you do not have to settle for less than the very best. Maybe you thought that you preferred athletes until you dated that football player with the odor issue. Lesson learned, right?
The more dates that you go on, especially after separation, the more confidence you will gain. That in turn will make you a happier, more well adjusted person. Once you are happy with you, the chances increase that you will finally meet Mr. Right. Until that day, it's Mr. Right Now or home alone every Saturday night, it's your choice. But think about this: do you really want to sit there eating cheese doodles and watching Lifetime movies every weekend while your ex is out partying and living the high life? Do you really want to pick up the Sunday paper and see his face smiling back at you from his engagement announcement photo? Really? Of course you don’t!
The timetable is different for everybody; some people’s hearts heal faster than others. One thing is true for everybody though; dating after a separation is hard. There will be bad dates where you come home and fling yourself on your bed and sob, thinking that you will never love again. Then there will be the good dates where you come home, your lips still quivering from that perfect good night kiss and sigh, thinking that maybe, just maybe there are some good guys out there after all.
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